Self Talk – The Carrot or Stick

We can be  be so conscious of what we are putting in our body but  my question to you what is already in your body.

What kind of language do you use when you are talking to yourself. Is it loving, and supporting; or is it more of a case of using a shame stick to motivate yourself?



What’s happening in that space between your ears. The epicentre of our own reality – the thinking organ. Too much thinking and we begin to create our own blind spots. The blind spots that we create for ourselves: are nothing more then a misguided sense of self love.

Natalie and myself open up to one another – to share the language that we use on ourselves. Talk about showing up with honesty and authenticity.

This is the real kicker: it’s our own voice. That voice in our head can sometimes get the best of us.

One of my old dialogs was to motivate myself by calling myself an Fing Pussy. Not the most loving language to use on myself. Shame is not an effective motivator.

We have this amazing power to let ourselves shine, or tear ourselves down.  Embrace ourselves – scars and all.

I have come to accept and embrace the dark yin to my yang. It’s very important that we do not judge ourselves when we become aware of the language of our self-talk.

As Natalie points out, we need to switch to more empowering language. Rozanne has a fantastic discussion about the power of positive affirmations (you can click here for the link).

We also need to go a little easier on ourselves. As Natalie points out, it’s a lot easier to tear ourselves down as oppose to build ourselves up. We need to keep in mind that we don’t need to be perfect. We are not good or bad people – but people striving for progression rather than perfection.

Why is it that we will grant a piece of cake a stay of execution , with 3 magical seconds .It’s only really a little dirt and grim. It still tastes the same, smells the same, and  only has a bit of the icing smudged off the side. There is really nothing wrong with it, and it’s just a bit of the icing that’s been smudged – it’s not broken.

Why is it that we will be so forgiving to that piece of cake that falls on the floor, but yet be so condemning of ourselves?

Make sure to use the carrot next time as opposed to the shame stick. How have you changed the language that you use on yourself?

Natalie, thank you so much for the authenticity!!